FAQ

As of now I'm just returning from hiatus and am prioritizing uploading new flags.
I won't be able to answer many questions unless they're really simple.

Try asking one of these lovelies instead, though I'm not sure how active they are:



Or just look it up on the LGBTA Wiki

Q1: What’s MOGAI?
A1: Marginalized Orientations, Gender Allignments, Intersex. It’s a more inclusive alternative to LGBT and a lot cleaner than adding more and more letters to LGBTQAIJKLMNOP+++

Q2: Will you add flags for allies, cis, straight, allosexual & alloromantic, or kinks?
A2: That depends. If the flag is in a combination flag (such as heterAsexual or straight trans) then yes. They are marginalized in their own ways and have unique experiences. If they're strictly non-marginalized identities then no. There's no reason for them to have pride flags because they are seen as the default in society.
Kinks are fine and all but I'm trying to keep this archive relatively SFW. There's other blogs that can handle that.

Q3: What is alterous/sensual/queerplatonic attraction? And what’s with the aplatonic spectrum?

Alterous Attraction: Alterous attraction is a form of emotional attraction. It describes a feeling that is not necessarily platonic/queerplatonic, but also is not romantic in nature. For some it may be in between romantic and platonic attraction, and for other it may be completely separate from the romantic/platonic distinction.
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Queerplatonic relationship, also called a quasiplatonic relationship, quirkyplatonic relationship, or qplatonic relationship (abbreviated QPR), is a term for a relationship that bends the rules for telling apart romantic relationships from non-romantic relationships. It typically goes beyond what is considered normal or socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but is not romantic in nature or does not fit the traditional idea of a romantic relationship.
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Sensual attraction, also known as sensorial attraction, is a type of physical attraction to another person involving the senses, usually the sense of touch. This is not an explicitly sexual form of physical touch, for example, sensual attraction could involve an interest in nonsexual forms of touch such as cuddling, kissing, or massage. Sensual attraction can also be applied in non-tactile ways, such as attraction to voices. In the a-spec community, it is often helpful to distinguish sensual attraction from sexual attraction.
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Aplatonic Spectrum: Too tired to make a nice thing so just read the wiki pages on Aplatonic and Platonic Attraction

Q4: Can I ask you a question about a gender or orientation?
A4: Sure! I can’t guarantee I can answer, but I’ll do my best.

Q5: Can you add a flag for me?
A5: Right now I have a huge backlog of over 2000 flags to upload. You can link me to one and I'll add it to my queue but I can't guarantee I'll be quick about adding it.

Q6: These are all made up genders/orientations!!!
A6: All gender labels are made up really, even man/woman. Genders frequently differ across cultures. The gender binary most of us are familiar with is a very Eurocentric colonial binary that’s only common because it’s been forced on most cultures around the world. Historically (and even now) many cultures have genders and gender roles that are completely different than the European binary. Many don’t even have a binary at all! One’s gender and sexuality is a unique experience to them, and while many people are comfortable with fitting in the rigid man/woman binary, many people are not and seek to find an identity that fits them. That’s the beauty of human language, it’s an open system so new words and phrases can be added to describe objects, concepts, or feelings that either are new, or have existed before but didn’t have a label for whatever reason.

One’s gender and orientation is a very complex thing and I personally believe most people arent 100% straight, allo, or cis. For me I used to believe I was cis and straight, but something felt “wrong” and I couldn’t put words to it. When I started researching uncommon genders and sexualities some of them resonated with me and a lightbulb went off in my head saying “Oh so that’s what that feeling was!” Finding new labels to describe who I am and knowing that I wasn’t alone is an amazing thing. I’m still not 100% sure on everything, but one day I’ll find the perfect label to describe my experiences.

I feel like this is the case for many, if not most, people. That they feel there’s something “different” or “wrong” about them, but for many potential reasons, can’t, or won’t, put it in words.

Many of the labels here don’t really describe the genders themselves, but certain aspects someone’s gender could have; like how fluid it is, how much of a certain gender they are, how much they understand their gender, what effects their gender, and many other things.

Q7: This is hurting REAL LGBT people because people won’t take us seriously!
A7: I’m sorry you feel that way, but people have always disrespected MOGAI people since the beginning of time in many cultures, including this one. People who say they would respect MOGAI people but all these new ‘ridiculous’ genders and orientations turned them off from being an ally are lying. They did not respect us beforehand and scramble to find any excuse to rationalize their hate. What really harms MOGAI people is forcing them into a rigid idea of what you deem “acceptable” for a person to identify as or orient in order to please our oppressors, or because you yourself are infact, still bigoted.

Every troll comment I got that said the above gave me a different list of what were “real” identities and orientations. One was just gay and straight; another was “gay, straight, bi, pan, cis, trans, agender”. Someone’s gender is unique to them and only they can choose to label themselves in a way that makes them feel comfortable; whether it’s find an existing label that fits them, or create a new label, their gender and orientation is valid and should be respected. That includes referring to them as the pronouns they give you.

Q8: I don’t understand genders like Feligender, Arithmagender, Leukogender, Digigender, etc.
A8: Genders like these are known as Xenogenders. Some people have very unconventional genders which can be hard or impossible to understand and the best way to express or explain them is to compare them to something else since the current binary is extremely limited. Many of these genders are compared to nouns and archetypes, senses and feelings, abstract concepts, and can be influenced by their synaesthetic perceptions, neurodivergent status, or their kintype.
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Q9: Otherkin isn’t a gender!
A9: You’re right! Kintype and gender isn’t the same thing, BUT some otherkin’s genders are connected to, or influenced by their kintype.

Q10: What's a Neurogender?
A:10Neurogender describes when one's gender is in some way linked to one's neurodivergency, mental illness, or neurological conditions. It is an umbrella term for any gender related to being neurodivergent, but it can also be used as an identity on its own. Neurogender is not neurodivergency as a gender, but rather is a gender that is so heavily influenced by neurodivergency that one's gender and neurodivergency cannot be unlinked.

Not everyone who is neurodivergent has a neurogender, only those who feel their gender is influenced by their status as neurodivergent. Neurogenders are exclusive to those of a given neurotype, though oftentimes there are similar terms available to neurotypical people who have similar experiences and don't wish to appropriate.
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